He is married to his job right now. It may not seem like a big deal now, but eventually it will probably surface that at best, the church impacts and influences her behavior in almost every area, at worst, it dictates it. It's not fair to put words in her mouth and thoughts in her brain like this. I do nearly all of the parenting fortunately we only have one child -- we both agree that this lifestyle is too demanding for more and find that my husband's crazy hours and the energy drain of the job make me yearn to connect with other wives that relate. This can be done. There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. The first time that happened could have been viewed as a warning sticker, and been your cue to exit stage right. Juggle them with a working wife, a housewife with children and things become difficult. For now, again, don't expect a decade long relationship. But it does make it hard for me to develop and strengthen our relationship.
Congratulations on understanding that and avoiding problems. From someone else in the medical field - a nightly phone call would be seriously draining, even if it only lasted a few minutes.
She won't marry you. All parent-child relationships do. This was the biggest one for me.
This also means giving her something specific to do. After two years of being together with very few problems, it ended within 30 minutes of having "The Talk" about my future religiosity. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. That's the difference - marrying for love vs marrying for a paycheck. Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness. You are a good person. If she says yes. What do you think is a reasonable expectation for how much time you will spend together, how often you will talk, etc. With that being said, I have long considered myself just a tad outside super TBM since we watched Game of Thrones, drank energy drinks, and occasionally stayed in my running clothes sans garments to do yard work. I'm glad he's upfront about the difficulty in dating for him.
A quiet, hard working immigrant but dedicated and faithful. While we have a good marriage but he has no idea how lonely I am for my him. Men and women must be willing to accept what they know to be true. Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc. On her mind, her eternal salvation depends on marrying a worthy priesthood holder. She will insist on raising her children in the Mormon church. Not being an RM, they weren't really interested in me. Glad I found this post. My daughter thinks it's funny that she's known her SO 4 years - not ready for marriage. There is no question this is the true church.
I met him today and we talked about what he wants to do in the future. While there are some differences noted here, in many ways you should treat them the same way you would girls of other faiths. Let them explore and see the many people who love Heavenly Father and serve him with all their heart. You should start raising CES letter issues with her and see how she handles it.