You will have to bring her down to reality. You can't reason with fanatics, and you got one. All of my siblings who married in the church 1 discussed getting married on the first date 2 were engaged within two months, and 3 were married within six months. I got married so that we could build a life together. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. Mormons observe the Sabbath closely, so Sundays are for attending church meetings and focusing on their spirituality. You are a good person. Thank you so much for this blog. While doctors start off with 6 figures right off the bat, they also have 6 figures of debt under their belt. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses.
If my mother needed her surgeon's attention, I wouldn't want him to be thinking about his wife's lamenting that he's never home, not romantic, etc.
Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. Even though we don't have kids I know the feeling of spending my Mrs Doctor life alone. I've read some of the articles linked to by mormonessays.
There are such things as perfect loving families though. His whole family joined after he did. Basically nothing like reality. I make significantly more money than he does as a resident, but I know that my job is secondary. I explained to her that from my perspective, if a religious person does something good, you can't trust them because they're doing it for the wrong reasons: When an atheist does something good, you know they're not doing it for any reason other than to help someone else. Mine was in California, back in the 70s. Except his wife was and still is a witch. So, I'm in a relationship with a 3rd year med student and we are trying to find a date to get married. I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. You might need more than he can give.
I was not in any way dissing her personally, nor dissing her at all, really Many people here have told the guy to run; I just went into more detail. Sexually, risque and the such is essentially the same as baptists and fundamental Christians. You've all been so helpful. I love him dearly with all of my heart. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is. If He can answer prayers to help you find missing car keys, He surely can help you understand who it is that you should marry. But I love him. She's really attractive, too. Work out as many as you can before marriage happens. There are a lot of single people in the world.
Patience my dear, that's what you're going to have to keep telling yourself. The religion rather, and more importantly, the church itself is integral to most mormons' identity. The independent work is just as important as the work we do as a couple.