So I want to know, if you woud have been given the option to take a totally different path and have a fresh start, would you have taken it?. We have been married a mere 3. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult. It's like a catch or something. There's no way a TBM is dating you if she knows about your Lucifer kick. He knows how I feel about spending time together. I love this post and this perspective. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. Does she understand that for a long-term relationship to succeed that the partners must treat each other as equals. I agree she should be able to watch a movie or do her own research.
You will always be second place. She will probably feel persecuted and attacked if you try. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. Like it was mentioned above, see how she deals some of the issues now and if she can't handle it, it might be better to find someone else. But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. They are exhausted, under tons of pressure, stressed, and expected to be studying hours after their long shifts. With that same attitude they will rise up on the other side of the veil. It may change your relationship to them forever. It wouldn't be as often as from someone with an ordinary job and schedule, but it would happen. It's a less common occurrence, but it happens.
Anyway, you got yourself a treasure. It is also considered disrespectful to others, as they may be uncomfortable because of your open displays. The fact that she's planning to go on a mission should help. We both love eachother and I support him as he supports me while im in school as well. Mormonism is a big thing for those who follow the faith, so Sundays and the occasional event depending on how much she does extra might distract her. I was thinking the same thing when I read this. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. If it seems one is unable to find a spouse within the church, which commandment do you keep. Will you be open to me teaching my children my athiest point of view. Sorry you had to go through this, but it's for the best if she's about to leave on a mission.
That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. Then she took a vacation to Utah and in her letter to me she stated that she had seen the Temple, and I never heard from her again. Do you really love him, honey. Through this, if you run into unforeseen issues like sold out movies or you cannot get a seat at a restaurant, you will always have a backup plan. I know the majority of them are great, but there are so many who are like vultures and will latch on to any male doctor like he is theirs.