Ishq hai tu
It's simply sometimes hard to accept that while he is your number one priority, you probably never will be. She has opened my eyes to many parts of our national culture that are not in harmony with righteousness. I wish I could let go of our love as easily as he has, but I just can't. As for conversion, she just spent every waking second thinking about converting people. She cannot get into the top echelons of heaven without being sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the temple for time and all eternity. It would put him in a position of feeling less and being looked down on. Look, as a shelia, its no different from a bloke. Otherwise you're just denying them eternal salvation in their eyes. Best of luck, and God bless. And occasionally I have queried the wisdom of that choice.
I don't know why the system allows this type of treatment Not only do the residents feel like they "should" be giving every single bit of their energy, intellect, passion, soul to their residency programs, but they are told by their program directors, attendings and everyone else around them that they "must". But, you will probably lose.
Edit - I just read through some of your other comments. It will poison your marriage until the end в of your life, your marriage, or your belief. Then you might want to talk about all the things her church requires. I learned that you have to weigh thes things out--is it someone you care enough about to wait for. Submit a new text post. Well, you know what you're not going to get into before marriage So fuck that relationship. But equally, does this mean you will have to sanction what you do, say and watch regarding Mormonism. Want to add to the discussion. You got some good advice from the other posters on how to maintain contact. Hopefully, it will give a little insight into Mormonism's insidiousness.
Now, lest you look at this all and say, "sheesh, go to counseling. If you shift his way, be prepared for the social costs of inactivityвplus, if you really believe the doctrine, a crisis of faith. That grad student better be working that hard if he or she wants to make it. How will your spouse feel about that in 20 years. I love my husband so much, but 40 years of loneliness has been more than difficult. Ask her right out if she is at all interested in leaving TSCC. I am also certain that there are callings and opportunities that I would have had, were I married to a faithful LDS woman, that I have missed. Life is not perfect. My husband and I have been together since we were year-olds at university trying to figure out where we stood with the faiths we had grown up in. My next serious boyfriend was raised Methodist but considered himself non-denominational Christian and people would comment on that instead of his character.
IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her. I have recently got admission in PhD and would be joining shortly. So it will just be for this life that it may be hard to have a non-believing spouse. Mormons are also taught "Families can be together forever.