I was born and raised in the LDS faith. She never mentioned TSCC. So I knew what I was getting into when I married him though I secretly hoped he would still convert back. I think Bob, the answer can be found in your comment. Good luck and my prayers are with you. I intend to spend some quality time in the temple, with my bishop, and with close family and friends as I think and pray my way through this decision, but I would also value your insights into this. She's too heavily invested in Mormonism for that. I haven't talked to him about it yet because I was hoping things would change once we dated for awhile and his feelings for me deepened. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. I was scared to bring it up and make it seem like a demand or ultimatum, so I think I will approach him in the way you described.
But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. I was going to get engaged to a surgen Indians do go for arranged marriage but my teacher she is married to a doctor asked me if i could manage to sacrifice family time after i get married to a doc. It's really somethi g to watch a person who is so self absorbed.
Do you masturbate, ever. Eventually you will get engaged and married and have babies and buy a house together. You'll know pretty quick where she stands. She will probably feel persecuted and attacked if you try. God loves every last one of us, regardless of religious affiliation. Anyways, any advice on which of those times would be best since I know both have to be a sacrifice for him of some sort. Then be clear you will never convert. I recommend that talk. Glad I found this post. This can also be the basis for forming important friendships, and learning proper skills for social interaction.
And yes, some people are unbelievably stupid about it. He was devastatedcalled me every night crying telling me to please go back. You can ask her directly, or through sources like other Mormons or reading their books. Mormonism is a lot more controlling and has a lot more downsides. She said we couldn't watch it because the lady who produced the doc was formerly a professor at BYU but has since left the church, so she wouldn't have anything good to say. The big one is that under Mormon theology both of you must be believing, fully active members to live together in the afterlife. Maybe that is why I am grouchy and can't cheer when my husband becomes a director for yet another board at the hospital. Hopefully she could realize if she was born into one of these cults that also distrust apostates she probably wouldn't see through them either. His dad and siblings are also doctors, hence his mom is quite use to the idea of being alone and independent. Thanks so much for all the time you've put into your replies.
I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. God knows the big picture. We tried discussing his list a few times, but it only ended in arguments. You will get to mingle with a lot of new people, and who knows, maybe you will also find the guy or girl of your dreams there.