Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions. In the endвthe very endвGod loves my husband even more than I love him. I am so happy about 'starting' our life together in a few months, but I feel like I am totally setting myself up for disappointment. I'm still holding on and willing to wait for "Better days" with him after his residency. I am giving him all of those things. My surgeon husband of 12 years just made himself a "free agent" when he cheated on me and our three kids with a gal 12 years his junior. Everything was fantastic, his family adored me, and he told me that he is going to marry me. They are just really convinced they are right. She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. At 30, you just give up.
This comment has been removed by the author. I pray the holy Spirit will provide guidance to both of us, and that love conquers all. Do you have a few suggestions for talking points I may want to bring up from stuff directly on LDS. All these are reasons to have some serious discussions. First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. Some mormon girls are closeted freaks as someone here has already said. I am seeing one right now My late ex was a physician and I was with him through med school, internship, residency and 20 years of his own practice. Just stumbled across this site today after trying to find ways to help me cope with dating a Doctor. I just returned from a difficult meeting with my psychotherapist and felt depressed-then I found this amazing blog. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult.
We are here looking for the other people who live this life and understand how difficult and, at times, painful this career is with which to live since the majority of people think like you until they see our families in action. For me, one of those bouncers is my marriage to the most wonderful woman alive. It's just that on days I'm working, I can't do that. You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. I could never put up with the crap he has to put up with but he could never put up with the loneliness I have to put up with Awww this makes me sooo sad. Basically nothing like reality. Some Mormons believe the Telestial Kingdom will be littered with spouses who refused to get baptized. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. I don't want to stress him. I hope this will change in the future - it would be difficult living a lifestyle like this in the long run.
I also just care about him enough and admire his reasons for becoming a doctor that I'm willing to make sacrifices so that his life is easier. I'm not going to hit the town with single ladies and couples find it awkward just inviting you over. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed.
Sometimes I often think he is a wrong choice. For the official Church websites, please visit LDS.